So how’s that workin’ out for ya?
June 19th, 2008This is a tough topic and it’s not one that I claim to have all figured out. Let me start by saying that. At thirty-three years old, there’s still a ton of stuff about which I know NOTHING. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve learned and the more I’ve been enlightened. That enlightenment has generally caused me to realize that I still don’t know too much, but each day is an opportunity for me to grow as a person. (Along those lines, I’m reading Lake Wobegon Daysright now. It’s a picture of small town life in the Midwest, written by Garrison Keillor and I’ve really been enjoying it!)
I heard a version of the title phrase many times from Matt Lababara. Matt & I taught together at West Jessamine Middle School in Nicholasville for seven years. He taught orchestra, I taught band. We shared an office, students, a classroom, and tons of jokes. Whenever anyone (often myself) did anything that Matt thought was stupid, he’d say “Let me know how that works out for ya’” I told him that I thought the 8th grade band could play on their own at Festival, not combined with the 7th grade band. When I told that to Matt, he grinned that “you’re nuts” grin and said “Let me know how that works out for ya’”.
Well, I often see students (and plenty of adults!) make decisions that will lead them to a certain endpoint. That endpoint is something that will definitely frustrate them and they’ll complain about how miserable they are. Then when another similar decision comes along, they’ll make the same choice…DUH! Here’s
- Example A: Tina is in a band mood because her boyfriend Joe treats her badly. They talk it out, things get a little better. Then two weeks later, Tina is complaining again. Why? Joe treats her bad. Uh, yeah he does. How’s that workin’ out for ya? Is the complaining worth the good times? If the good times are really that great, then maybe the bad times are just the price you pay. If so, well, don’t complain! You did, after all, purchase the product [Joe] did you not? If the price [being treated like crap] is too expensive [the good times aren’t that good] then don’t buy “that product the next time you’re at the store [talking it out] It seems logical doesn’t it?
- Example B: Bob always skips class and blows off turning in his work. At that moment of skipping, he’s having a little bit of fun [benefit]. Instead of doing his work, he’ll spend time online: playing video games, working on his really important myspace profile, or reading some teacher’s blog…[benefit]. Two weeks later, he’ll be grounded [cost] because he has a D and two C’s in classes that should be easy A’s and B’s. Is the grounded-ness worth the really high score on World of Warcraft? I doubt it. Was the “benefit” worth a caring and influential teacher thinking Bob is lazy and irresponsible? Nope, probably not. Oh, the best part will be be when Bob complains. Don’t complain! You danced and now it’s time to pay the piper.
- Example C: Pat’s mom really wishes that Pat had a place to fit in, be involved, make something special out of their high school experience. “I hope Pat gets more out of high school than I did, I never got a chance to do alot because my parents didn’t encourage me. I’m really pushing Pat to be active in school.” Why doesn’t Pat play in the treble kazoo choir? Pat’s pretty talented! In fact, if Pat had shown up at Solo & Ensemble, they’d have gotten a Distinguished rating for sure. It’s too bad they couldn’t get there… “Well, I couldn’t get Pat a ride to Solo & Ensemble because I work third shift.” I’m sure that’t tough, I wonder if someone lives nearby that could give Pat rides to band events. “Maybe so, we’ve never asked. It just too much trouble”. Okay. Is the price [Pat is stuck only doing things that offer bus transportation] worth the benefit of a third shift job? Maybe a 7:00-4:00 would pay a lot less, but offer your child better opportunities? It could be that with a 9:00-5:00 job, you couldn’t have unlimited texting/high speed internet/cable TV/two car payments, but Pat could be more active in school. That same activeness might get Pat into college, which might allow Pat to get an ideal job where Pat could set the hours, which would allow Pat’s kids to…
I guess that what I’m trying to get at here is this: if you keep you doing things the same way, expect things to stay the same. If you’re truly happy and fulfilled right now, don’t change. If you spend a lot of your day frustrated, angry, disappointed, do change. Things seldom happen because of bad luck. If things aren’t going your way, do something to make that change…DON’T sit around and expect things to get better on their own. If things are going your way, try to examine why. Is it your hard work? Great support from family/friends? Do you have exceptional skill/ability/intelligence? Has God blessed you in some particular area? Once you determine what it is that’s gotten you to a place of happiness, don’t let something trivial [boyfriend/girlfriend, part-time job, video game] block that from your life. You are in control and you can make life what you want it to be.